Violence: Connecting the Dots

Francie Billotti-Wood and her three children are dead. So is her husband, Christopher Wood. This is a tragedy that never should have happened.

Despondent over excessive debts, Christopher Wood shot and then nearly decapitated his family before turning a gun on himself.

The man who killed his wife and three young children and then himself in a tiny town in northwest Maryland last week was at least $460,000 in debt and owned a Florida house that was in foreclosure, according to property records and police.

In one of six notes he left scattered about the rented house in Middletown, Christopher Wood, 34, described his financial hardships and his struggle with depression and anxiety -- factors that investigators believe contributed to the killings. [...]

At a news conference, authorities released a raft of details about the killings, describing a scene more ghastly than what had been known since the bodies were discovered Saturday morning.

According to investigators, Francie Billotti-Wood, 33, and the couple's 5-year-old son, Chandler, were each shot twice in the head with a .25-caliber handgun. Chandler's younger brother, 4-year-old Gavin, was shot three times; daughter Fiona, 2, was shot once.

After they were shot, their throats were slashed almost to the point of decapitation, officials said. Wood killed himself with a shotgun. [...]

Several experts said slayings of entire families by fathers and husbands are often associated with economic hardship. Some men get to the point where it becomes impossible to tell family members that they're going to lose the house or that the kids can't go to college, said Richard J. Gelles, dean of the University of Pennsylvania School of Social Policy and Practice and an expert on family violence.

"If you have built your identity around that you're the breadwinner, you're the backbone, and that becomes unglued, it undermines your sense of self," Gelles said.

Regular readers know that when tragedies like this happen I often suggest the man simply kill himself and leave his family alone. If a man is so unhappy (for whatever reason) and he sees no way out, why does his family have to pay such a high price?

The particulars of this case point to the need for change in at least three areas:

1) We MUST have affordable and readily available mental health care in this country. People under this much stress need help.

2) We MUST change our culture to embrace feminism. Rigidly defined roles contributed to why Christopher Wood must have felt he could not admit to his family his "failure" to provide for them.

3) We MUST change the culture of greed that fueled our current economic meltdown. Greed on the part of CEO's, bankers, and Wall Street investors whose actions have this country on the brink of another great depression.

This may seem oversimplified, but we must start somewhere to end violence against women and children.